Tom Stabnicki was born in Detroit in 1949. He was raised in a Roman Catholic family and attended seminary in high school and college. In 1969 Tom left seminary and joined VISTA. VISTA sent him to Decatur Illinois. There he became a member of Decatur Monthly Meeting in 1973.
After earning his BA at Earlham (1975), he settled in Chicago, got a job with the Department of Children and Family Services, and transferred his membership to Northside Meeting. About that time Tom met Barry Friedman, his life companion. They were together 16 years until Barry's death from AIDS in 1994.
Tom and Barry were trade union leaders in AFSCME. Tom has also been involved at Northside Meeting, the AFSC and various community organizations. Currently he serves on the board of the Test Positive Aware Network, and AIDS service organization.
Tom Stabnicki left DCFS in 1994. He traveled the world, attended the Earlham School of Religion and graduated from the Chicago Theological Seminary in 1998.
New American Movement 10th convention
In 1981 Jim Reed, Christians for Socialism and Tom Stabnicki led a workshop entitled Christianity and Social Change at the 10th Convention of the New American Movement. The convention was held in a union headquarters in Chicago and ran from July 29 - August 2, 1981.
In 1991, Democratic Socialists of America was promoting a leaflet "Perspectives on Lesbian and Gay Liberation and Socialism", edited by Itala Rutter and published by the Gay and Lesbian Task Force of DSA's Feminist Commission. Contributors included Leo Casey, Martha Fourt, Hannah Frisch, Barry Friedman and Tom Stabnicki, Christine Riddiough, and Judy MacLean.
- Saw It Shine Through All The 1996 Jonathan Plummer Lecture Presented at Illinois Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends McNabb, Illinois August 4, 1996
- NAM 10th Convention Agenda, July 29, 1981
- Democratic Left, March/April 1991, page 18